Posts Tagged ‘oral sex’

Our new health educator


As sad as we are to say goodbye to Gabrielle after six years at Head & Hands, we are also so pleased to welcome Charlie as our new Health Educator! Charlie is joining our team to lead our visioning process of the Sense Project.

Karaoke star queer weirdo raised by virgo lesbian moms in Montreal’s East side, Charlie completed an internship at the Center for Gender Advocacy last year. With a background in social work, he’s very excited to share his knowledge of sexual health, help us create social change, and lead the next chapter of strong, fierce sex-positivity at Head & Hands.

Ask him anything, especially about Céline Dion or gonorrhea; despite being only 24, he’s a huge Celine dork, and he thinks that everyone should get the chance to learn all there is to know about gonorrhea!

Ask anything: so you’re thinking about swallowing semen…


Q: spurm is eating or not?

If you are wondering if there is any nutritional value to sperm: According to the Columbia University website Go Ask Alice, each teaspoon of ejaculate has about 5-7 calories and some 200-500 million sperm. While sperm makes up only about 1% of semen, the rest of the liquid contains fructose sugar, water, ascorbic acid,
citric acid, enzymes, protein, phosphate and bicarbonate, and zinc. So although there are proteins and calories in sperm, you would have to swallow gallons of it to make any kind of difference to your nutrition!

If you are wondering if it’s safe to swallow sperm/semen: There are some risks involved in swallowing semen, and in unprotected oral sex in general. (more…)

Ask anything: sex and sores


We are getting more and more questions in our “Ask Anything” question box to the right! –> Stay tuned for more questions & answers coming up throughout the week!

Q: I have sores in mouth and have been having oral sex without a condom, only my partner has never done any sexually activities before and neither have I, whats up?

Thanks for your question! Unfortunately, it’s impossible for us to know exactly what the sores are without seeing you in person, but you would be welcome to come into our clinic if you’re in the Montreal area and between 12-25 years old. Our medical clinic happens on Tuesday and Thursday evenings, and you just have to arrive between 4:45-5pm to get entered into the draw for that night’s clinic. You can view the clinic schedule and more information on the Head & Hands website. If you can’t come to our clinic, we can help you find a clinic that’s more convenient for you. One thing that’s important to remember is that the doctor will need to see the sores in order to help you figure out what’s going on, so make sure that you go to a clinic while the sores are present.

So although we can’t diagnose anyone over the internet, we can offer some information that may be useful to you. (more…)

Ask anything: Safer oral + anal sex


This week’s Ask Anything column is answered by Liam, a fantastic Sense animator who facilitates our workshops in schools! As I mentioned before, Sense now has a formspring account where you can ask us anything – any of your awkward, out-there or just plain practical questions about sex. You can ask your questions anonymously at any time in the box to the right –> and we’ll post the answers here on the blog!

Q: is anal and oral sex safe without condoms?

The short answer is no, but, it’s always more complicated than that. For instance, oral and anal sex with condoms isn’t completely safe either. For instance, herpes, HPV (genital warts), and parasitic STIs (crabs, lice, and trichomoniasis) can be passed on even if a condom is used properly because condoms can only protect the area that they cover and these STIs are located all over the genital area, not just on the shaft of a penis. Instead of safe vs. unsafe, it makes more sense to talk about ‘safer’ sex. Condoms are a very effective method to prevent the transmission of a lot of STIs, many of which can be passed on through anal and oral sex.

Using a condom for anal sex can be a bit tricky because anuses often have less lubrication than either mouths or vaginas. Be sure to use a water-based lube with a latex condom and to go as slowly as you need to. Be sure not to double-bag (wear 2 condoms at the same time) because they rub together and actually increase the risk of a condom mishap.

For oral sex, condoms or dental dams can prevent the transmission of gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, HIV and Hepatitis A/B/C, and can help reduce the risk of HPV and herpes transmission. But remember that if open sores are present and they’re not covered by the condom or dental dam, infections can be transmitted from skin to skin contact.

The take-away lesson is that proper condom use and caution when there are open sores around will do a lot to keep you safer.

Hope this helps! Happy safer sex!



Safety_hugo says:

Virginity sounds like a simple matter to a lot of people. It usually implies having never had penetrative sex, but it can get tricky quickly.

What if two guys have sex together for years but never do penetration, because that’s not their thing – are they virgins?

What if two women have sex together for years, never doing penetration – are they virgins? What if they start using sex toys for penetration?

What if a woman does penis-anus penetration with her partner, but no penis-vagina sex to protect her hymen, is she still a virgin?

Virginity is a label. You decide if it applies to you or not. What becomes an issue is when people are treated poorly because of their sexual experience, or lack of thereof. Or when people feel they’ve wasted something important if they end up having a mediocre first sexual experience (for whatever reason). There’s a good chance that your first time will be less than 0.1% of your sex life, yet people put so much emphasis on it. The first sexual experience that really matters is the first one you truly enjoy.

What matters is whether you are enjoying what you are doing with your partner or not, and whether you want to explore other aspects of your sexuality. People can judge you on what you have done or not, but that shouldn’t be.